I have to admit something: Since the controversy of guys transitioning to girls being allowed to use the women's restroom started I have used the women's room a couple of times. One was because I really had to go and some guy was parked in the men's room; the other time I just wanted to do it to see if anyone would stop me.
It's sad that we have to preface more and more conversations with our personal preferences in clothing, thoughts, and sex. But here I go: I am a heterosexual male that enjoys wearing men's clothing, I think a lot about how women look, and I love to have sex with my female wife of 30+ years.
When I need to urinate or defecate while away from home I prefer to get in, do my business, and get out. I don't really like having other people in the restroom when I am using it but understand that in a larger facility other people will be in the room.
I don't really want to think about things too much, I just want to relieve myself and move on.
I think that Starbucks handled this whole thing best - all the bathrooms are single-holers and can be used by any paying customer. (Oops, another subject...)
But if it's a multi-hole restroom I don't think I'd complain too much if a woman came strolling in to use one of the stalls. The problems would start when she complained about the penises she saw while looking around as she strolled to and from the stall and while washing her hands afterwards.
She shouldn't be looking around! Guys learn this early - don't peek over the wall while at the urinal, don't look in occupied stalls, all of that. If you're in a place where men are exposing themselves you shouldn't complain when me men expose themselves.
Same thing with women! If a guy walks into a women's restroom and discovers the lounge area with couches and a microwave don't be surprised when guys want to take a break with some privacy like the women get.
If you're in between, transitioning, unsure, curious, or whatever just get in, relieve yourself, and get out. Don't make it a big deal!
Now if children are present the rules change somewhat. Steer clear of the children, don't look at them if yo can help it, and be ready to report their status to the mother or father standing just outside the door. Try to take advantage of them or express yourself to them and you're wishing the wrath of the community, not just the parent.
So to sum it up: get in, do your business, and get out. If you're trying to make a statement do it after I leave.
